Through talking, things begin to happen over time. Together, we will uncover deeply held assumptions that, although may have been useful or necessary at one time, may now reinforce ways of coping in the world that are no longer effective or needed.
Working as a team, these patterns of thinking and behaving become more conscious and easier to recognize, creating access to new choices and new ways of being.
What at times may feel like our “destiny” are often unconscious repetitions or self-destructive ways of being. They keep us from progressing with ourselves and our relationships…living a more satisfying life.
There is an unfortunate misconception about therapy that it is forever “dredging up” old history and miring in the past, rather than focusing on moving forward with one’s life. In reality, effective therapy does just the opposite. Therapy liberates one from the past. It releases one from a history of reflexively responding to echoes from one’s past as though they were still present. It allows one to develop what the psychoanalyst Melanie Klein calls, “a mind of one’s own.”